April 2, 2008

Understanding Adoption

Adoption isn't just what people do when they can't have "their own" children, it isn't plan B. Adoption is a true calling. It's knowing that your child is out there somewhere. It's yearning for him or her to just come home and not knowing when or where they are.

I believe that God put this yearning in us because we are already parents of a little girl, we just don't have her yet. He knew this was how He was going to complete our family and we know that by the desire that He put in us to adopt. Adoption has been something we've talked about since very early in our marriage. We have always been surrounded by adoptive parents through our church and always felt that "one day" feeling. Well our day is here and our daughter is in Ethiopia!

Imagine for a moment that YOUR child is in a foreign country. You have no way to communicate, no way to know if they are healthy, safe, if they are being loved, held, if anyone is wiping their tears or stroking their hair. You don't know when you'll get to see them again. You have months possibly even years of paperwork, visits, documents to complete. And then you still wait. Imagine YOUR baby thousands of miles away and you can't comfort them. You would do whatever it takes to just get YOUR baby home! You would redo paperwork you've done 3 times before. You would take documents back to the notary to have it re notarized with a clearer signature. You would beg your friends for references and them beg them to redo them when they aren't notarized properly or because they didn't date it. You would wait 3 months for an adoption visa because your towns immigration office is backlogged. You'd hear people around you saying "why don't you just have more kids?" and ignore them, because YOUR baby is out there. You would empty your savings, get another job, sell everything you own...just to get YOUR baby back! This is understanding adoption.

We know that most of the children in Ethiopia are very well taken care of. I only use this example to show that has parents, by however we got the part, we always yearn for our children to be loved, safe and cared for. As adoptive parents, we just trust that our babies are cared for until they come home.

10 comments:

Annie said...

beautifully said :) Your little girl will be very blessed when you have her in your arms. yes, I also had to have those same reference papers redone due to needing a dated paper/or a notary whose commission didn't expire in a year ;)

Welcome to the world of blogging...I am also adopting through CHI, (waiting stage) and I found your blog through our yahoo group.

Ressie said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I look forward to meeting your daughter. Miles is so blessed to have a little sister that is waiting to meet him! Bless you guys! Love you.

angie said...

very well said! i can't wait to follow along in your journey!

by the way, your son is precious :)

LISA said...

Yearning is definetly the word.

Kevin & Laura said...

So Sweet and True! We are at about the same stage in the process of adopting from Ethiopia through CHI as well. It is great to have others on the journey!

Teresa said...

So perfectly said! We have 3 biological children, ages 6, 5 and 2 and we have had very mixed reactions when we share with people that we are adopting. It truly is a calling. Waiting is definitely the hardest part.

I look forward to following your journey to your little girl. Your son is precious!

Lennah's mom said...

Best Wishes on your journey. I cannot wait to keep up with your story.
Cathy

Brad and Fran Hoagland said...

Hi! This is Fran and my husband and I are also adopting from Ethiopia. Welcome to this blog world and I will be checking back on yours to see how things are unfolding!

DawnKane said...

Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself, I am also a CHI soon to be parent and this post verbalized everything we are going through. My husband Kane and I have chosen adoption because for us this is the way we feel we want to grow our family. A lot of our friends are completely perplexed by this and I have endured some of the most invasive questions from people about our ability to have children and why on earth we would choose to do something...I am thankful that none of these people would choose to adopt because I feel they would be doing a large disservice to the child. My husband and I are in a unique position because we are not sure we want to have bio children at all and this further complicates things when we are having Q&A with curious people...Anyways, that is my rant! I wish you guys a great experience and I look forward to hearing all about your journeys!

Take Care
Dawn Webber

Jodi said...

SO TRUE! People look at us funny when we say we are adopting, as we have three biological children of our own as well. It is a calling, and one I can't wait to fill. Congratulations on your journey. I can't wait to read all about it on the blog.